Monday, April 27, 2009

How can a girl tell a boy that she loves him, too?

Telling someone your true feelings can be an intimidating situation, especially when it comes to romantic relationships!


First, I recommend you think about how you really feel about this person. It might be helpful to make a few notes to help organize your thoughts. What do you love about this boy? What kind of feelings come up when you are together or apart? The tricky part may be considering whether you are in love with or whether you feel love for someone. The difference can be hard to tell, and it is possible to have one but not the other. For example, it is possible to feel love for someone without desiring a romantic relationship with them. It is also possible to desire a romantic or intimate relationship with someone while not feeling love for them. 


If you've taken some notes, you might also wish to write down a few things you like doing with this person. What are some things that this boy does to make you feel love for him?


Next, consider how you would like to tell this person that you love him. How did he tell you? In person, or maybe through writing or text message? It is best to respond in the same way that he has professed love for you. This way, it does not set up a dynamic where one of you is trying to "one-up" the other by being more or less formal. 


When you tell this person that you love him, you could try to incorporate the notes you took (or thought of) earlier! While simply telling someone that you love them is sweet, it adds depth if you tell the person why you love them. Healthy relationships are built upon a foundation of the partners understanding what the other does and does not like. Telling this boy what you like about your friendship or budding romance can help lay a foundation for a healthy relationship.


Most importantly, be yourself and do what feels natural! Best of luck to you!

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