What are five relationships and experiences that shape Holden's individual sense of belonging?

Holden seems to be lost between childhood and adulthood. He doesn't feel accepted at his most recent school, Pencey, and he's just been kicked out of it. Before Holden goes home to face the music with his parents, he visits Sally Hayes, Phoebe Caulfield, and Mr. Antolini because he feels a sense of belonging with these people. Along the way, he discusses his deceased brother Allie and Jane Gallagher for the same reason. These are the people who have made him feel accepted throughout his young life. Everyone else Holden talks about is a phony, or fake, to him, but he never calls these people phony. The following quotes show just how much he loved being with these people:

Sally Hayes:

"When we were coming out of a clinch, I told her I loved her and all. It was a lie of course, but the thing is, I meant it when I said it" (125).

Holden likes Sally so much that he even asks her to run away with him and eventually marry him. This doesn't work for her, though, and they part ways after having a fairly good date together.

Phoebe Caulfield:

"You'd like her. I mean if you tell old Phoebe something, she knows exactly what the hell you're talking about. I mean you can even take her anywhere with you. If you take her to a lousy movie, for instance, she knows it's a lousy movie. If you take her to a pretty good movie, she knows it's a pretty good movie" (67).

Holden loves his little sister so much that she becomes the reason he doesn't run away from home in the end.

Mr. Antolini:

"He was about the best teacher I ever had, Mr. Antolini. He was a pretty young guy, not much older than my brother D.B., and you could kid around with him without losing your respect for him" (174).

Holden generally hates adults, so to have a favorite teacher he looks up to is a big deal. Holden feels so comfortable with Mr. Antolini that he would rather call him about failing out of Pencey rather than his parents.

Allie Caulfield:

"He was also the nicest, in lots of ways. He never got mad at anybody. People with red hair are supposed to get mad very easily, but Allie never did, and he had very red hair" (38).

Allie is Holden's brother who died three years previously. Holden really looked up to his little brother for the genuine person that he was. After his death, Holden was never the same.

Jane Gallagher:

". . . she was terrific to hold hands with. Most girls if you hold hands with them, their goddam hand dies on you, or else they think they have to keep moving their hand all the time, as if they were afraid they'd bore you or something. Jane was different" (79).

Jane is Holden's first love and another person he believes is genuine. That is the most important quality for Holden to find in a person—the fact that they are not phony. Holden is able to connect with people he feels are not fake because they are the ones who make him feel cared for and accepted.